Guest Blogger #4

Before I begin, I wish to thank Spiffs for posting this blog submission.  I know it isn't particularly something that his blog would normally cover, and is very much off topic. However, this needs said.

There is something that has been on my mind for the last week or so since the death of the great Robin Williams. There is an elephant in the room for so many people in America, and presumably the rest of the world that needs to be addressed.  I've heard some very disturbing statements, and some very insightful statements since Mr. Williams unfortunate demise, and I want to speak up.

First off, I need to make my positions extremely clear.  I am a current, chronic, and life long sufferer of depression.  Some of my friends know this, some don't.  Mental health is something I have struggled with since I hit puberty, and probably will for my entire life.  I manage it, I seek help when appropriate, and I am aware of it, but I will never be completely free of it.  There is no cure for many mental diseases, but there are treatments.  I wish I could cite where I first saw the statement, but I've seen it a few times now and lost track: 'Robin Williams did not die from suicide.  He died of depression, suicide was simply the method.'  This isn't glibness, and it isn't a tagline, it is simple truth.  It is a simple truth we must recognize if we are to help our friends who suffer as he did.  This is true in the same way that a person with lung cancer might eventually die of lung failure.  We do not say they died of accute respiratory distress.  While technically that is true, we say they died of lung cancer.  Please make the effort to force yourself to understand that in many cases suicide and depression work the same way.

Those of us with mental problems are stigmatised a bit by soceity.  There are stereotypes that the mentally ill are violent and to be avoided.  Which sometimes is true, but more often than not is simply false.  The biggest problem with this line of thinkiing is that it shuts down the conversation, and this is a conversation we absolutely must be having.  It isn't enough for us to recognize that mental issues exist.  We have to talk about them.  People who suffer must know that it gets better, and that help is out there.  We can not shut down the communication and expect people to know this.

There's the old line 'what has he got to be depressed about'.  I've heard this one directed at me by well intentioned friends.  I'm a white male, combat veteran, who owns his own business, and is 'well liked by the ladies.' What have I got to be depressed about?  That simply isn't how it works.  I can go from cloud nine, to the depths of despair in a heartbeat.  I can be laughing because I'm having a fabulous time, while pleading with myself to just push on one more minute.  You want a small look at how this feels?  Have you ever gotten a song stuck in your head?  You know the song, you may or may not like the song. It keeps playing on repeat, and it just won't go away.  Days later it's still there, and you're not even sure where you heard it anymore that got it stuck there.  That is a tiny taste of what depression feels like, replace the song with thoughts of whatever minor nuisance of your life is most relevant at the time and makes you sad, and you have a near perfect analog of what any given moment may be like for me.  It isn't about having a relatively good life, or even being happy.  It's a perfect hell, and that statement about 'should be happy' makes it even worse.  Here I am, dying on the inside, dwelling on thoughts I can't control, knowing that I have no reason to be sad, depressed, or agitated, and feeling even more guilty because my friends think less of me for feeling that way.  Please, don't ever say this to someone with depression.  You can think it if you must, but don't voice it.  You will make things worse for them, I promise.

How about the old line 'he just needs someone to talk to'?  That's true, but, not true.  Yes, please listen, and talk to them.  But encourage them to get professional help.  You are not trained to talk to someone with a mental illness, and in most cases do not understand it.  I can say that fairly broadly because I can't understand it, and I live with it daily.  It is very important that you don't abandon your friends and loved ones when they are depressed, but recognize that you are not the only thing they need to get better.  While I'm on that subject, there is a lot of talking and trying to help when a person is most depressed.  That's great, but when they start to snap out of it the talking generally fades off.  Don't let it.  This is actually the most dangerous point.  I know, it seems counter-intuitive.  The way depression works is that it nearly immobilizes the sufferer, they can't bring themselves to do anything.  They don't want to do anything.  That feeling of fatigue is the first thing to leave, before the mental anguish that the disease is named for itself.  The most likely time for a person to attempt to commit suicide is when they are first starting to recover from an episode.  The fatigue that keeps them from doing anything leaves, the pain remains, suddenly in a panic they act to stem the pain.  Just because someone appears to be getting better, do not think the worst is over.

Men don't talk about these things.  Men deal with their problems.  Clearly this is not true.  We actually have a tendency towards the opposite, we DON'T deal with these things, until it is far too late.  Women used to be thought of as more likely to suffer from depression than men.  We now realize that that disparity is more a problem with male attitudes towards mental health.  Men are far and away less likely to seek help when they are suffering from any abnormality, be it a mental illness, or an actual injury.  There is a reason that more men are diagnosed too late for certain illnesses where time limited treatments are available.  Just because you're a 'man's man' does not mean you are immune to the gray matter in between your ears.  Get out of the testosterone bubble, before it kills you.  Swallow your pride, most of us chest beaters have too much of it as it is, and get your ass to a professional.  There is nothing manly about succumbing to depression, or any other disease.  It is far braver to talk to a psychiatrist than to 'suffer through' and end up with a gun in your mouth.  I speak from experience, I'm only here today because of a gun jam.

Depression is a horrible thing, and it effects far too many people from all walks of life.  As Mr. Williams' death proves.  Mental illness does not respect how great your life is, how happy you are, how well liked you are, or what your skin color is.  If you suffer, please get help.  If you know someone who suffers, encourage them to find help.  The only help that should be an embarassment is the help you don't get.  Most importantly, find out more.  The more you know, the better off you'll be.  The better you can help your friends, loved ones, or if the worst happens, yourself.  Education, and public understanding are how we beat back this disease that destroys families, and kills far too many.  Find help, help where you can, or learn more.  We only win if we work together.

Update

Well, it has been a while since I have written in any of my blogs...so I thought I would post a little update as to what I have been doing.

I have been pretty busy as of late, so I have had little to time to do anything..

Work has been keeping me busy..as there have been a few people who have left and a few who got fired so my hours have picked up somewhat and with the Halloween and Christmas  seasons coming up I will be getting even busier.

But I do have a few entries in the works and a guest blogger entry that us different from the norm that I post here so be on the lookout for that in the next couple of days.

Well, that's all I have for now

Til next time spiffy people

It has been a minute....

Well, it has been a while since I last write anything in here so I decided to write a quick entry.

Saw one of the most fun and amazing paint shows ever in MsPenny's room including the painting of the rare three horned unicorn.

I got banned from a room the other day for not talking, although at the time I was trying to handle the delivery of a refrigerator, getting dinner ordered and I forgot I was even in a room at the time lol.

SummerShy who I call Dory figuratively makes my heart melt whenever she says Nillaaaaaaaaa I think I may have mentioned that once or twice.

I was in MsPenny's when she got hazed by some of the lounge 10k guys, but all in all they seem like good lads and just wanted to have a bit of fun plus they tipped so it was all good.

I am plotting the Spiffy awards to sorta recognize what I feel are some of the more noteworthy people I have come across on MFC..I just need a design for an award lol.

Question for those that read this Do you all have those guilty pleasure girls that you like to watch for whatever reason?

JessiDeer on MFC in my opinion kinda looks like LeAnn Rimes

Well that is all I have for now

So until next time

Be Cool
Be Kind
Be Spiffy
And don't be afraid to call out stupid people

Guest Blogger Number 3

(Normally this is where I would do the blah blah blah about how this doesn't reflect the opinion yada yada yada...but not today lol)

~MFC's Undiscovered Treasures~

Having been on MyFreeCams for a number of years, I have grown to be somewhat apathetic for the "Top 20" girls.  They've been lucky enough to find their 'White Knights' and 'Heroes' and while I'm sure most put in a great deal of effort to put on a good show for their viewers, so do the other 10,000+ active models who have yet to be 'discovered'.

Today I will be highlighting a couple of the girls I've found on MFC who in my opinion, should be ranked in the Top 20 (or at least Top 100).  They work every bit as hard, are as sexy and engaging, and can be a great source of 'fun times' for everyone who wanders into their room.

First: A relative newcomer to MFC, is CaliFox93

A 21 year old 'alt' model who I stumbled across guest-starring with another friend and more-established model Brooke1994.

Cali is a sweet girl who is very approachable and lots of fun to talk with. Her dancers body is flawless and she has a smile that could melt a glacier. She has some awesome multi-colored cornrow dreadlocks that she admits to enjoying have pulled during sex. She likes to get naughty and loves both giving and receiving spankings. She is open to most requests, both in public and private or groups.  

She is on relatively late, usually around midnight-4am+ EST so if you're a west coaster, you won't have to sacrifice sleep to get to know her better.

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Next is a little Cali-girl named MsPenny

A hot, petite, 25yr old ginger girl from SoCal who is regularly on at about midnight EST until about 3am most nights. Unlike some, she is a true ginger (the carpet matches the drapes). What makes her special is her charm, sense of humor, and tremendous sensuality.  Penny has been on MFC a little over a year and has a small but loyal following who are all very cool pervs.  The overall room dynamic is about 'Having fun' and sexy good times.

She enjoys friendly, polite interaction with her room and expects very little aside from respect.  She has a great philosophy. Knowing that tips are earned, she doesn't beg for them. If they come, they come, if not, well... An early night with her pets is always fun too.

Stop in and say hi, drop a few tokens if you have em, and prepare to have a great, giggly time.

I have other models I will be showcasing in upcoming Ghost Writer entries here on The Wonderful World of Vanilla Spiffy, so for now, go check out these lovely west-coast cuties and make sure to let them know they aren't just a camscore, but a hot desirable young lady you're happy to have met.

~~ The Ghost Writer ~~

Spotlight...

MFC has lots and lots of ladies on their site. Some like the top 250 get tons of recognition, but there are some outside of that group who I feel deserve more. Hopefully due to what I post and what I know my guest bloggers will be posting, we can give some of these special ladies the recognition they deserve.

So without further ado....

Today's entry is all about... Brooke1994

Now I must confess, that Brooke is not normally somebody who is "my type". You may be asking why as she is obviously a very attractive young woman. Well, usually I prefer somebody who is not so in your face about their sexual needs, wants or what not, I do like a little mystery when it comes to that sort of stuff..

But when it comes to Brooke you don't get that, not at all.. Lol. Ms. Brooke pretty much makes no bones about the fact that she is a total nympho and likes to get off whenever she can. She also encourages people in her chat room to go to the lounges and tell people to come in and watch her cum.

But there is something about her that makes me go to her room when she is on, there are several factors that contribute to this. Her eyes, the eyes are one of my favorite features of a lady and Ms. Brooke has a pair of eyes that are very alluring. Of course the fact that Brooke is very sexy is a positive. But the number one thing I think that makes me keep coming back is the fact that underneath the naughtiness and nympho manic tendencies lies the heart of a total sweetheart and she has a great sense of humor. Brooke makes every effort to get interact with every person who is talking in her room no matter if there is 20 people there or 500 people there.

So yeah, there is a nutshell is the reasons why I think Brooke deserves some more recognition than what she gets, so next time your up at around 10ish PST or later and you see Brooke1994 pop in say hi and be prepared to be treated to a hot show or two I promise you won't regret it.

Until next time

Be Cool
Be Kind
Be Spiffy
And don't be afraid to call out stupid behavior

MFC this Week

Well, this past week was perhaps the most boring week ever on MFC, due to it being the fourth of July weekend most of the girls took the weekend off to spend time with their families or what not. Overall, I tend to think July is a boring month as far as MFC is concerned as it is a prime month for many of the girls to take a vacation.

In other MFC news, I lost a raffle, my MFC raffle losing streak continues!!

I still need an audio file of a certain model saying Nillaaaaaaaaaaa for my alarm tone to wake me up in the morning.

Random models who PM me, annoying as hell it is. The least they could do is say hi and tell me a little about themselves instead of launching into a sales pitch.

A little bird told me a guest blogger entry may be coming up soon, stay tuned or that.

Saw a very sexy Greek cam girl last night, first time ever seeing a Greek cam girl by the way.

I don't know if I have said this before, but I am going to say it now so it's on the record so to speak.  Of course, seeing sexy girls on cam is spiffy and hot, but the best part of MFC as far as I am concerned is the friends I have made during my fours years of being a member.

Well, I don't think I have too much more to say on this slow week in MFC history so I am going to take this time to say, go to a random room and say hi to a new model you never know you may find a new model to like.

Until next time Spiffy people

Be Cool
Be Kind
Be Spiffy
And never ever be afraid to call out stupid people!

Sometimes....

Sometimes it is amazing just what can bring joy to a person

Something so small as taking the time to write up just a little quick blog to wish a person happy birthday for example..

Just seeing the look on her face and how happy it made her made my night

Those who were there last night will know what I am talking about..

Those who weren't missed one of those moments that all too often get taken for granted....

So whenever you get a chance try to do a random act of kindness...

Who knows you may see a smile as bright as the one I got to see last night..

Until Next Time:

Be Cool
Be Kind
Be Spiffy
And don't be afraid to call out stupid behavior